Judgment is a fundamental part of human experience that nearly everybody has gone through. It can either be conscious or unconscious. In as much as individuals are not in a position to affect their beliefs, they tend to form an active contribution with a system of how to assess people. Last December when the family had organized a get-together party, I had an experience that almost changed the perception that people have always held about me. The party was to start at around 10 a.m. It meant by around half past nine everybody was to be present for preparation. Unfortunately, it turned out that I never made it as expected. My close friend Tony called me in the morning to go over and help him out on something. When I arrived at his place, I found him weak lying in bed and sweating profusely.
I had no option but to work out means by which he could be taken to the hospital for checkup and subsequent medication. He explained to me that he started to feel unwell in the previous night a situation that deteriorated. He was alone and only counted on me as the nearby friend who could help him address the situation. I took him to the hospital where he received treatment. We left the hospital in the evening and had to rush and show up for the gathering. Upon arriving, everybody was looking at me with scorn. I was judged to be unconcerned about our family and that I do not appreciate the fact that I have a family. It degenerated to a serious exchange with my uncles describing me as a disrespectful person who has no respect for the elders.
It was too late and nobody was ready to listen to my story on why I could not make it on time. The incident led to me being judged harshly. I came to realize that in certain instances, one can be judged by something else rather than the character. A moment in life can change the whole perception that people have had about you. Through this incident, I learned that judging others should not be quick but one should be given a chance to explain himself or herself.